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Although it seems that to be a good roommate, you have to do a great deal of compromising and understanding, and surrendering.  Remember that a roommate has rights too.  You have the right to:
  • Refuse requests without feeling guilty or selfish;
  • Express your individuality through whatever ethical means you find natural;
  • Make mistakes;
  • Have your needs be as important as those of others;
  • Be independent;
  • Feel or express anger;
  • Be included and not considered a "third wheel";
  • Be treated as a capable human adult and not to be patronized;
  • Personal Privacy;
  • Receive the same respect and consideration for your opinions that you give others;
  • Engage in those physical, educational, and social pursuits that are a necessary part of your University career;
  • Read and study free from undue interference in your room;
  • File grievances and initiate action for impartial and fair adjudication through the proper channels;
  • Be free from fear, intimidation, physical and/or emotional harm, and the imposition of sanctions apart from due process.
Ten crucial tips for a good roommate relationship
  1. Get to know each other. You've got your first opportunity to make a new friend. Take the time to ask and answer questions -- about family, hobbies, academic interests, etc.
  2. Talk it out. Communication is key in building a successful relationship.
  3. Be open and friendly. You and your roommate may not have the same taste in clothing or music, but you likely share some of the same concerns and apprehensions. Be the first to step out of your comfort zone.
  4. Be understanding. Everyone has bad days. Remember that you may not always be aware of the issues your roommate is dealing with, but there's most likely a good reason for his or her actions. A sympathetic ear might help a lot.
  5. Give each other space. Togetherness is great, but too much of a good thing sometimes that's not so great. You and your roommate both need time alone. If that time doesn't come naturally, talk about it.
  6. Ask before you borrow. Not everyone has a different comfort level when it comes to lending belongings. Asking first helps avoid misunderstandings.
  7. Define "neat." Whether you're a neat freak or a slob, you have someone else's feelings to consider. With a little give and take, you can each adjust accordingly and make your environment comfortable.
  8. Pick one extracurricular activity to share. There's nothing like having something in common to care and talk about. If you aren't involved in any of the same activities, you are likely to see each other at bedtime only. You may feel like you're sleeping in a room with a stranger.
  9. Schedule study times. Let your roommate know in advance when you have a big test or paper coming. He or she will know to give you some quiet time.
  10. Live by the golden rule... "Do unto others, as you would have done unto you..."
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